A little disappointed

Four days ago I took it upon myself to start three little challenges, and so far so good.  I’ve drunk my water, done my little bit of fitness and read my son at least one story each day.  I know it has only been four days, and I don’t entirely know what I had expected, but I feel a little bit of disappointment.  I had honestly hoped for a sense of achievement, or some magic makeover, I realise now that was simply ridiculous.

I think that this is a common problem in today’s society.  We live in anticipation of what will be, rather than focussing on the moment.  We often read only what we want to read, listen to only what we want to hear and miss out the other vital quantifying parts.  None of the bloggers that suggested starting with small changes to develop new habits said that you would get the same sense of achievement as when you achieve a much bigger goal, just that you are more likely to succeed.  And that this success could be built upon to develop into the bigger goals you may choose to set yourself.

In order not to get carried away with much of the hype that sweeps us through today and tomorrow and all of next week, one thing that I am trying to do is to make at least some moments in my day truly conscious.  Like today I was walking through some woods, it was muddy and frosty underfoot so each footstep felt different, sometimes squidgy, sometimes crunchy.  I could hear birdsong, water running somewhere, crackling and rustling of leaves and sometimes a distant train.  Then there were smaller things, the sound and feel of my hands brushing past my leg, the sound of my own breathing.  I was carrying my son on my back so there was his wriggles and warmth and little sounds now and again.  I used to spend a lot of time worrying about the future and that I didn’t know what I wanted from it, and worrying about how I hadn’t done enough with my past and yet this meant that I wasn’t able to enjoy the present moment and largely I went through my day without even realising what I was doing, falling into routines and habits that then become difficult to change.

So as i’m searching for my passion, and have the goal of trying to make a living for myself and my family from doing something that I really love, I also want to make sure that I enjoy today.  From my personal experience these are my tips to help:

  • Go outside, stop, look around you and breath deeply
  • Put post-it notes up in places that are likely to have habits you would like to change (such as on fridge, computer screen, television) that say things such as ‘are you sure you want to do this?’ and ‘is there something I’d rather be doing’.
  • Take your shoes and socks off and feel the carpet/ground beneath your feet
  • Have a sip of a cold drink and feel it inside you

All these things can help remind me that I am alive now and that the now really matters.  The questions allow me to change my mind about things that I would really rather not do as often as I do, and yet I seem to just fall into the pattern of doing them day in day out.

Good luck!


Starting Right Now
January 13, 2012, 2:48 pm
Filed under: Fitness, Habits, Health, Parenting, Resolutions | Tags: , , , , ,

I have many interests, and at the start of 2012, following a real sense of enthusiasm and motivation, aswell as having been given the gift of time and therefore I really want to try to find my passion.  I turn 22 this month, and I have felt for the last two or three years that life has begun the really get away from me, to roll on by without me really engaging in it.  I have a tendency to start too many things at once, to get too excited and try to take on the world.  I have also tried in the past to stop doing things, from a negative perspective, rather than start new things, a more positive point of view.  Following the advice of many personal development bloggers, I am going to start with small changes that are impossible to fail at.  Success breeds success and those small steps will be my stepping-stones to greater things.

I have chosen three little changes to start with, each in a different area that I’m trying to improve:

1) To do 10 press ups, 10 dips, 10 squats and 10 crunches once a day.

2) To drink 2 pints of water per day

3) To read my son one story per day

Once I have achieved these for one week, then I shall re-evaluate and make new plans.